Dawn.
The sun spreads her rosy fingertips
Across the still, hushed world.
One golden ray finds its way
Through a crack in the blinds
And lands on the chestnut hair
Of a slumbering angel.
I gaze on her with reverent wonder,
Realizing that I am looking upon
The true definition of beauty and love.
Nura stirs, her eyelids flutter,
And she smiles at me.
And in that smile I see
The radiant light of a thousand thousand suns!
It brightens even the darkest corner
Of the room, and of my heart,
Which melts into an infinite sea of joy,
As my soul becomes one
With all that is pure and good and right.
Morning.
Nura floats gracefully,
Like a butterfly,
Through the morning light,
As flocks on flocks of butterflies
Flutter in my heart and thrill my senses.
In silent rapture I watch her move
Through every detail of her morning ritual.
Her shadow through the shower curtain,
The strokes of the brush through her hair,
The toothpaste dribbling down her chin -
Such mundane tasks become
A joyous ballet when Nura performs them!
Does she know how much I love her,
Not in spite of, but because of such moments?
Does she understand the peace and happiness
That permeate my soul
And shed grace upon my life
With every little thing that she does?
Afternoon.
Nura lovingly plants flowers,
Not realizing that their delicate beauty
Is but a pale imitation of her own.
The reddest rose grows pale
For envy of her lips.
The greenest leaf withers
Because it cannot match her eyes.
The lesser sun in the sky above
Hides itself behind a blanket of clouds
Because my angel outshines it.
The warblers and finches cease their song
When they hear her voice, and grow sad,
Dimly comprehending that they
Will never utter such beautiful sounds.
Nature strives to emulate her.
Heaven rejoices in her.
Hearts melt at the sight of her.
And, with all my heart, I love her.
Dusk.
The sun gives up its feeble attempt
To outshine my angel and sets,
Defeated, over the shimmering gulf.
But I do not see the vibrant reds and
Oranges of the florid evening sky.
I see only their reflection in Nura's eyes.
Others gaze serenely over the sea,
Contemplating the profundity of its depths,
But I do not notice the crash of the waves
Or the play of light on the water's surface.
My deep inner peace owes nothing to
Sunset, salt air, or ocean depths.
All my serenity comes from
Contemplating the depths of Nura's soul
Shining forth from her luminous eyes.
There, I could lose myself forever,
Leave behind all earthly cares, and
Commune with the angels!
Night.
I hold my angel in my arms
And feel her heart beat
In perfect rhythm with my own.
I feel her soft, sweet breath
On my chest, and it warms me
To the very depths of my heart,
Which swells to bursting with
Boundless, burning love and joy.
I brush an errant strand of hair
From her face, and she stirs momentarily
From her slumber, smiling sweetly.
I marvel at that smile and its power
To light up even the dead of night
And fill it with divine radiance.
There we lay, breathing in unison,
Hearts beating as one, and as sleep overtakes me.
One thought fills my consciousness:
Nura and I are two halves of one blessed soul.
source:
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/1713379/want_to_melt_a_girls_heart.html
Tuesday, May 19, 2009
Friday, May 15, 2009
Gandharv Marriage
In simple words, Gandharv Marriage can be considered to be Love marriage, as when the bride and groom don't take consent of their parents, the rituals can not be done, so an exchange of the marital Garland marks the marriage.
The Gandharv Marriage concept has been recognized by the ancient Indian Texts. Such a form of marriage is often referred to as the solution to a relationship where families of the bride and groom don't agree to the marriage, then Gandharv Marriage is an option.
Method of Gandharv Marriage
The Gandharv Marriage is done through the pronunciation of adequate mantras and mutual promises for the happy marital life of the bride and groom and by the exchange of Garlands. These Garlands must be made of pure roses only or the Gandharv Marriage is not complete, also the Gandharv Marriage can not be done at night, and only at day. The Gandharv Marriage does not require the presence of any purohit (priest) as well, only the presence of the bride and groom, the knowledge of mantras and knowing of promises is required for the Gandharv Marriage
Gandharv Marriage in Literature
Kalidasa, an ancient Indian poet and writer had written a romantic tale on the love story of a King named Dushyantha and a girl named Shakuntala. The story had documented the usage of Gandharv Marriage rituals, where Dushyantha escapes the Ashram of Shakuntala's father and both of them marry secretly exchanging their Garlands, therefore through Gandharv Marriage. Gandharv Marriage has also been documented several times in royal marriages, where the Prince allegedly falls in love with a substandard caste woman and marries her without parental consent. Love marriages today are a common example of Gandharv Marriages.
source:
http://www.gandharv.com/gandharv-marriage
The Gandharv Marriage concept has been recognized by the ancient Indian Texts. Such a form of marriage is often referred to as the solution to a relationship where families of the bride and groom don't agree to the marriage, then Gandharv Marriage is an option.
Method of Gandharv Marriage
The Gandharv Marriage is done through the pronunciation of adequate mantras and mutual promises for the happy marital life of the bride and groom and by the exchange of Garlands. These Garlands must be made of pure roses only or the Gandharv Marriage is not complete, also the Gandharv Marriage can not be done at night, and only at day. The Gandharv Marriage does not require the presence of any purohit (priest) as well, only the presence of the bride and groom, the knowledge of mantras and knowing of promises is required for the Gandharv Marriage
Gandharv Marriage in Literature
Kalidasa, an ancient Indian poet and writer had written a romantic tale on the love story of a King named Dushyantha and a girl named Shakuntala. The story had documented the usage of Gandharv Marriage rituals, where Dushyantha escapes the Ashram of Shakuntala's father and both of them marry secretly exchanging their Garlands, therefore through Gandharv Marriage. Gandharv Marriage has also been documented several times in royal marriages, where the Prince allegedly falls in love with a substandard caste woman and marries her without parental consent. Love marriages today are a common example of Gandharv Marriages.
source:
http://www.gandharv.com/gandharv-marriage
Monday, April 13, 2009
Love isn't a decision
Love isn't a decision, it's a feeling.
If we could decide who to love, then, life would be much simpler, but then less magical.
This quote from:
Love104.org
If we could decide who to love, then, life would be much simpler, but then less magical.
This quote from:
Love104.org
How to Get a Girlfriend - The Tips
*Always try to laugh with her,and to make her happy. If she makes fun of you it is a good sign she is interested in you.
*Girls get jealous very easily. Making up a girlfriend you met on a trip will increase your mystique and sex appeal.
*Avoid acting conceited, snobby, or self absorbed. Girls do not respect boys like this AT ALL. If you're just trying to beat your "kiss" record, and you're not actually interested in the girl, don't bother.
*Body language is very important. Be sure to keep a sturdy, upright frame and look her in the eye. Now, be careful not to stare at her either. Being natural is key.
*If you are nervous, and going out to meet women, be sure to start talking to people as soon as you reach your destination. Chat up the staff at the door, or the people who let you into the party. Be open from the start.
*Put on great-smelling perfume (temporary liver worst scent) girls love that!!! Research the best-selling ones at department stores. Unless, that is, the girls you like tend to be more on the outdoors or tomboy side of things. Some girls detest the scent of cologne. Do not marinate yourself with scents. Ladies complain of too much cologne, not too little. Do not exceed the maximum of three sprays on the upper body. Especially if you wear cologne every day. It's the general problem where a person gradually becomes accustomed to the cologne levels in their own scent so that they need more and more of the stuff to be able to smell it on themselves. You might not be able to smell it, but it's there.
*Guys do not need to look like Brad Pitt to find a girlfriend. Just keep hair, teeth, and nails clean and neat. Ladies are quick to notice little details especially in the hands and faces. Don't think you're ugly, if you look at the boyfriends of other attractive girls, you'll find that most of them aren't like Brad Pitt either.
*Be a good conversationalist. Read up on the latest in politics, entertainment, and and even sports news. Women love a well-informed man. It makes him look well-educated and, therefore, richer in every aspect. Or just actually be well-educated.
*Do listen to the lady before responding. Women do not like to be cut off. They like to be considered and feel important.
*If she does get cut off, when the other conversation is over, go back and ask her what she was saying. It is a very nice thing to do, and makes you look like a leader.
*Do pay on the first drink, first date, first taxi cab ride, etc. It makes a gentleman out of a man.
*Very important - offer to walk or drive the lady home (or anywhere she wants to go). This makes the man seem sincerely concerned for her well-being.
*Don't say things you need to explain, this is the biggest mood killer.
*Be honest and forthright, but not aggressive. Girls appreciate you telling them how you feel.
*Don't annoy your girl by texting her every night. If she texts you, reply, but unless you have something to say then don't text. It gets annoying when someone keeps texting you saying "what r u doing?", so if you absolutely can't go without saying something every day, at least correct your grammar. At the very minimum, spell words correctly. Instead text about something that happened to you that reminded you of her, it could lead to a good conversations starter the next time you meet her.
*Don't be afraid to display your affection in public, but be aware that not all girls like that.
*Dress to match: blacks and whites, browns and blues, etc. Even if they don't say anything, girls notice.
*Don't be afraid to touch her, if you find yourself flirting, lightly touch her arm or waist.
*Be a gentleman! Open car doors for her and remember the "ladies first" rule.
*Be yourself.
*If you're going to the movies, get one large popcorn to share it, and maybe your hands will touch.
*Grinning like the Cheshire cat can often creep someone out.
*Taking over the entire conversation is overbearing and rude.
*Do not insist relentlessly on an offer when the lady has turned it down. It may be that she has no use for or does not feel good about the suggestion. Pushing her to accept will only increase the possibility of rejection. *tell her that you want to have a sexual conversation
*Be a close talker. every girl likes that.*Don't make disgusting body jokes or ask them questions that are too personal.
*Make her feel like a human being instead of a sex object.
*Do not tell your friends about secrets or personal information she has told you. If she wanted your friends to know, then she would share it with them. Until then, you should assume the information is for your knowledge only.
*Don't over-compliment the girl. Complimenting is good, but if you do it too much, she will probably just think you're desperate or weird.
*Don't be too concerned for what mood the girl is in. A short, "are you feeling okay?" is fine, but DO NOT comment on how the girl appears to be. Girls don't like guys that say "you seem upset" all the time.
*Flirt not only with her, but a little with other girls as well. In fact, when you are first meeting the girl you should befriend her friends before her. But make sure she knows its her you want. Women are like sheep following a leader, if one girl is attracted to you. Another girl will notice and she will get attracted to you because the first girl is. Smiling, joking around, making the people around you happy. If you can manage that, you can get pretty much any girl.
*Immerse yourself in a group of girls. Trios of girls are the easiest target. Try to be in their lab and study groups as much as possible.
*Remember, girls will let you know within a short time if they are interested. If you seem not to find someone interested in you, or have a bunch of rejections, don't get down. Sometimes being single is a plus.
*Also keep in mind that if she talks to you first or carries on the conversation, then that means that there is something about you that she likes.
*Teasing about small things is almost always good, but don't take it too far.
Generously provided by WikiHOW,
http://www.wikihow.com/Get-a-Girlfriend
*Girls get jealous very easily. Making up a girlfriend you met on a trip will increase your mystique and sex appeal.
*Avoid acting conceited, snobby, or self absorbed. Girls do not respect boys like this AT ALL. If you're just trying to beat your "kiss" record, and you're not actually interested in the girl, don't bother.
*Body language is very important. Be sure to keep a sturdy, upright frame and look her in the eye. Now, be careful not to stare at her either. Being natural is key.
*If you are nervous, and going out to meet women, be sure to start talking to people as soon as you reach your destination. Chat up the staff at the door, or the people who let you into the party. Be open from the start.
*Put on great-smelling perfume (temporary liver worst scent) girls love that!!! Research the best-selling ones at department stores. Unless, that is, the girls you like tend to be more on the outdoors or tomboy side of things. Some girls detest the scent of cologne. Do not marinate yourself with scents. Ladies complain of too much cologne, not too little. Do not exceed the maximum of three sprays on the upper body. Especially if you wear cologne every day. It's the general problem where a person gradually becomes accustomed to the cologne levels in their own scent so that they need more and more of the stuff to be able to smell it on themselves. You might not be able to smell it, but it's there.
*Guys do not need to look like Brad Pitt to find a girlfriend. Just keep hair, teeth, and nails clean and neat. Ladies are quick to notice little details especially in the hands and faces. Don't think you're ugly, if you look at the boyfriends of other attractive girls, you'll find that most of them aren't like Brad Pitt either.
*Be a good conversationalist. Read up on the latest in politics, entertainment, and and even sports news. Women love a well-informed man. It makes him look well-educated and, therefore, richer in every aspect. Or just actually be well-educated.
*Do listen to the lady before responding. Women do not like to be cut off. They like to be considered and feel important.
*If she does get cut off, when the other conversation is over, go back and ask her what she was saying. It is a very nice thing to do, and makes you look like a leader.
*Do pay on the first drink, first date, first taxi cab ride, etc. It makes a gentleman out of a man.
*Very important - offer to walk or drive the lady home (or anywhere she wants to go). This makes the man seem sincerely concerned for her well-being.
*Don't say things you need to explain, this is the biggest mood killer.
*Be honest and forthright, but not aggressive. Girls appreciate you telling them how you feel.
*Don't annoy your girl by texting her every night. If she texts you, reply, but unless you have something to say then don't text. It gets annoying when someone keeps texting you saying "what r u doing?", so if you absolutely can't go without saying something every day, at least correct your grammar. At the very minimum, spell words correctly. Instead text about something that happened to you that reminded you of her, it could lead to a good conversations starter the next time you meet her.
*Don't be afraid to display your affection in public, but be aware that not all girls like that.
*Dress to match: blacks and whites, browns and blues, etc. Even if they don't say anything, girls notice.
*Don't be afraid to touch her, if you find yourself flirting, lightly touch her arm or waist.
*Be a gentleman! Open car doors for her and remember the "ladies first" rule.
*Be yourself.
*If you're going to the movies, get one large popcorn to share it, and maybe your hands will touch.
*Grinning like the Cheshire cat can often creep someone out.
*Taking over the entire conversation is overbearing and rude.
*Do not insist relentlessly on an offer when the lady has turned it down. It may be that she has no use for or does not feel good about the suggestion. Pushing her to accept will only increase the possibility of rejection. *tell her that you want to have a sexual conversation
*Be a close talker. every girl likes that.*Don't make disgusting body jokes or ask them questions that are too personal.
*Make her feel like a human being instead of a sex object.
*Do not tell your friends about secrets or personal information she has told you. If she wanted your friends to know, then she would share it with them. Until then, you should assume the information is for your knowledge only.
*Don't over-compliment the girl. Complimenting is good, but if you do it too much, she will probably just think you're desperate or weird.
*Don't be too concerned for what mood the girl is in. A short, "are you feeling okay?" is fine, but DO NOT comment on how the girl appears to be. Girls don't like guys that say "you seem upset" all the time.
*Flirt not only with her, but a little with other girls as well. In fact, when you are first meeting the girl you should befriend her friends before her. But make sure she knows its her you want. Women are like sheep following a leader, if one girl is attracted to you. Another girl will notice and she will get attracted to you because the first girl is. Smiling, joking around, making the people around you happy. If you can manage that, you can get pretty much any girl.
*Immerse yourself in a group of girls. Trios of girls are the easiest target. Try to be in their lab and study groups as much as possible.
*Remember, girls will let you know within a short time if they are interested. If you seem not to find someone interested in you, or have a bunch of rejections, don't get down. Sometimes being single is a plus.
*Also keep in mind that if she talks to you first or carries on the conversation, then that means that there is something about you that she likes.
*Teasing about small things is almost always good, but don't take it too far.
Generously provided by WikiHOW,
http://www.wikihow.com/Get-a-Girlfriend
Friday, March 6, 2009
The Nayika Bhava
The shastras have classified the basic mental status of woman, the Nayika, into Eight divisions, called Ashtanayika bhavas. These divisions portray the heroine in different situations, express different feelings, sentiments & reactions. The Ashtanayika bhava are
Abhisarika
Kalahantarika
Khandita
Proshitapathika
Swadheenapathika
Vasakasajjika
Virahotkantita
Vipralabda
Abhisarika - She is the one who boldly goes out to meet her lover.
Kalahantarika - She is the one who is repenting her hastiness in quarrelling with her lover, which has resulted in their seperation.
Khandita - She is the one who is angry with her lover for causing dissapointment.
Proshitapathika - She is the one who is suffering in the absence of her beloved, who is away on a long journey.
Swadheenapathika - She is the one who is proud of her husband's or beloved's love and loyalty.
Vasakasajjika - She is the one who is preparing for the arrival of her beloved, by decorating herself and her surroundings. to provide a pleasent welcome to her lover.
Virahotkantita - She is the one who is seperated from her lover & is yearning for reunion.
Vipralabda - She is the one who is dissapointed that her lover has not turned up at the tryst as he promised.
Other classifications of the Nayika bhava are
Mugdha - Inexperienced in love.
Madhya - Partly Experienced in love.
Pragalbha - Matured in the art of love.This Pragalbha Nayika is further classified as
Abhisarika
Kalahantarika
Khandita
Proshitapathika
Swadheenapathika
Vasakasajjika
Virahotkantita
Vipralabda
Abhisarika - She is the one who boldly goes out to meet her lover.
Kalahantarika - She is the one who is repenting her hastiness in quarrelling with her lover, which has resulted in their seperation.
Khandita - She is the one who is angry with her lover for causing dissapointment.
Proshitapathika - She is the one who is suffering in the absence of her beloved, who is away on a long journey.
Swadheenapathika - She is the one who is proud of her husband's or beloved's love and loyalty.
Vasakasajjika - She is the one who is preparing for the arrival of her beloved, by decorating herself and her surroundings. to provide a pleasent welcome to her lover.
Virahotkantita - She is the one who is seperated from her lover & is yearning for reunion.
Vipralabda - She is the one who is dissapointed that her lover has not turned up at the tryst as he promised.
Other classifications of the Nayika bhava are
Mugdha - Inexperienced in love.
Madhya - Partly Experienced in love.
Pragalbha - Matured in the art of love.This Pragalbha Nayika is further classified as
Dheera
Adheera
Dheeraadheera
Sweeya - Married & faithful to her husband.
Parakeeya - Married but in love with another man.
Samanya - A free woman, who truly belongs to any man for a price.
Jyeshta - The preferred one.
Kanishta - The other woman.
Further classifications are
Uttama - Self-controlled & tolerant.
Madhyama - Literally the middle one, who gives as she gets.
Adhama - Literally the low one, who has no self restraint.
The Companion to the Nayika plays an important role in any padam, javali or Ashtapadi. This Companion is the one to whom the Nayika will convey her feelings, she is the one who will take the message,if any, from the nayika to the nayaka, she is the one who will sort out the differences between the nayika & the nayaka. This companion is usuallly a girl who is close to the Nayika. The classification of the Companion is as follows.
Daasi - Servant
Sakhi - Friend
Kaaroo - Woman from a lower caste
Chatriya - Step Sister
Prativamshini - Neighbour
Lindini - Saint
Shilpani - Artist
Swaa - Nayika herself as a messenger
[http://www.geocities.com/regha/nayika.html]
Tuesday, January 13, 2009
Magical power of a woman
"There is no one sight, sound, smell, taste and touch other than that of a woman which can captivate and distract the mind of a man."
Friday, September 5, 2008
Men, Women & Conflicts
Men mistakenly expect women to think, communicate, and react the way men do;women mistakenly expect men to feel, communicate, and respond the way women do.
We have forgotten that men and women are supposed to be different. As a result our relationships are filled with unnecessary friction and conflict.
[Excerpted from the book "Men are from Mars Women are from Venus" by Gray John]
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